Divorce is difficult – for the couple, for their friends and family, for the children, for everyone involved. The effects of a divorce have a significant impact on you and those around you. No one can really understand how difficult it is until they experience it personally.
There are many ways to grieve and many ways to heal. Following this outline and learning the tools to walk through each step of the emotional rebuilding process will help you through those difficult stages by offering genuine hope, assurance of forgiveness, and restoration of your sense of self.
Look at it as an insurance policy that you can choose to avoid making the same mistakes over and over again!
WHERE DO I BEGIN?
An architect’s blueprints represent the project goals. The builder’s plans are the sequential steps necessary to complete the project. To begin our personal remodeling, we first need to develop a blueprint (what we want to accomplish) and a plan (how we will achieve those goals) to get us from where we are now in our grief to where we want to be in the future.
Realize that “Remodeling”:
- Has a cost – time/energy/money
- Causes discomfort/there is a labor involved
- Is inconvenient
- Requires tearing down the old structure
- Is a process that does not happen overnight
- Requires a personal investment – How much will you invest?
Get a Vision: Map out a plan and prepare for inconveniences to the best of your ability.
Get the Materials Together:
- What resources will you need?
- Consider people, tools, books, manuals, and/or videos
- Where will you get help or will you try to work alone?
Divorce, like other loss, brings with it significant life changes, and Divorce Recovery can be a daunting task. But, with good planning, the right tools and professional guidance, you can successfully complete your personal “remodeling.”
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