As I turn the key to unlock our back door, I can’t help but laugh. Through the glass, I watch as George springs into the air awkwardly. I use the word awkward because my VERY large yellow lab does not look anything like a dog when he jumps to greet me after a long day at the office. Instead, he resembles a cat. Let me see if I can describe a snapshot of him in mid air. He takes off of all four paws at the same time. When he reaches maximum altitude his back is dramatically arched and his toes are pointed like a weird ballerina dog… Do dogs point their toes?!? I digress. He does not touch the back door. He does not put his paws on the glass. He leaps into the air over and over again, reaching the same height each time, a good 3 feet off the ground. At the top of his bounce he has a grin on his face and his tongue hangs out of his mouth. Okay, tell me that’s not AWKWARD!
The interesting thing is, though I can expect George’s excited reaction when I come home, it still makes me smile every day. Yes, he is a dog, but George accepts me no matter what I do. Even when I neglect to walk him in the morning, or even when I get home later than expected, George’s reaction does not change. This got me thinking about human relationships: relationships with ourselves, relationships with others, and the ways we allow our judgments to interfere with the potential for deeper connection. Ask yourself the following questions, and it might shed some light on the ways you may be hindered in your relationships.
Do you value yourself based on what you do or based on who you are?
Are you hard on yourself when you make mistakes? Are you hard on others when they make mistakes?
Do you consider yourself to be a human-doing? Or a human-being?
Does your acceptance of others change based on what they do or do not do?
Do you withhold love and kindness from those close to you when they mess up?
Do you withhold love and kindness from yourself when you mess up?
Do friends/family/loved ones show you their imperfections? What about your reactions makes you a safe or unsafe person to open up to?
What if we were all able to see one anther honestly, for who we truly are?- loveable, imperfect people in need of grace.